Read, watch, and listen to "Ask Lily" - a fun and engaging way for young children to learn simple decision-making skills that can help them make good choices, as well as help them stay out of harms way should they be receive negative action messages from other sources. Lily also helps build self esteem with random affirmations.
Lily (who by the way is a real dog, living in Texas) gently guides the child via video and printed text through the decision-making process, arriving at a sound answer after a thoughtful series of Yes/No questions. As you can see in the question algorithm below, the child is finally guided to a grownup for consultation whenever the motivation to do something has come from a negative source, as well as for permission when it appears the desire to do something is the childs own positive motivation.
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The questions are provided depending on the child’s yes/no responses, in the following algorithm.
QUESTIONS and ANSWERS:
**Do you have an important decision to make about something youre thinking about doing?
No: Well, if something comes up later, I hope you will come back and talk with me about it.
Yes: If you do this, will it hurt anyone?
No: (next question)
Yes: Did someone tell you to do this?
Yes: Please talk to a trusted grownup about this right now before you do anything else.
No: Do not do it.
**If you do this, will it hurt you?
No: (next question)
Yes: Did someone tell you to do this?
Yes: Please talk to a trusted grownup about this right now before you do anything else.
No: Do not do it.
If you do this, will it make anyone sad?
No: (next question)
Yes: Did someone tell you to do this?
Yes: Please talk to a trusted grownup about this right now before you do anything else.
No: Do not do it.
**Can you get in trouble if you do this?
No: (next question)
Yes: Did someone tell you to do this?
Yes: Please talk to a trusted grownup about this right now before you do anything else.
No: Do not do it.
**Is it a bad thing?
No: (next question)
Yes: Did someone tell you to do this?
Yes: Please talk to a trusted grownup about this right now before you do anything else.
No: Do not do it.
**Is it a good thing?
Yes: It sounds like it might be okay - but just to be sure, make sure to get permission from a grownup, first.
No: Did someone tell you to do this?
Yes: Please talk to a trusted grownup about this right now before you do anything else.
No: Do not do it.
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AFFIRMATIONS STAR:
When the child taps the star button, Lily provides a random affirmation. Below is a list of included affirmations:
1. You are very helpful.
2. You are friendly. I like you.
3. You are very kind.
4. You are smart.
5. You are strong and brave.
6. You are so loving.
7. I love you.
8. You are very special.
9. You are so fun to play with.
10. You are strong and courageous.
11. You get better and better, everyday.
12. Your family and friends love you just the way you are.
13. You, my friend, are very creative.
14. Whatever you do, you always give your best.
15. You are totally awesome.
16. You are a really good friend.
17. You are so thoughtful and kind.
18. You are strong on the inside, and out.
19. You are perfect just the way you are.
20. You are important.
21. You are very good.
22. You are a winner, my friend.
23. You deserve all the love and happiness in the whole wide world.
24. You are beautiful.
25. You are like a bright and shining star.
26. I like you.
27. I believe in you.
28. You are my little sunshine.
29. I like you because you are honest.